So I have written a bit about my wife’s response to me coming out. For those who haven’t read it wasn’t good or supportive.

Apart from the judgemental attitude, she has taken to pointing out various behaviours and mindsets and labelling them male or female. For instance she commented that I never acted feminine around her, and commented on my clothes as an example. I tend to dress very bland as a male, dark coloured cargo shorts or pants and darker coloured shirts. My response was that as a male I tend to dress drably because that is expected of me. But en femme I like floral styles, skater skirts and dresses. I also prefer brighter colours.

This morning I was talking about calling my sister to wish her a happy birthday (which was a few weeks ago). I commented that neither of us were very good about remembering each other’s birthdays. Her response was “that is typical of male behaviour and thought processes (my sister used to be my brother). I think it is more likely indicative of a poor relationship and being autistic personally.

I am sick of having my thoughts and actions labelled male as if that proves that I am not really a trans woman. It is very demeaning and makes me resentful.

Has anyone else encountered this type of labelling? How did you respond to it? Any tips would be helpful.