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36 [M4F] #BayArea, CA - Chivalrous Gentleman seeking Traditional Lady
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enigmatic_shard is a male age 36 looking for a female in California
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In today’s modern and progressive world, I really stand out for many reasons as I am not your average man. See below for a description of myself.

About Me:

  • Hispanic - I speak spanish (my first language), but english is my primary language (no real accent)
  • Physical appearance: 6’0, shaved head, dark eyes, usually some stubble, slim/fit. I have been called handsome by many women and I certainly think I am above average in looks. However, I am very simple in my attire or fashion; I do not have much flair and prefer to be very modest and masculine in the way I dress. I have no piercings nor tattoos. This is a picture of me in my work attire: https://imgur.com/a/pdtmSPa
  • Health: I work out 6 times a week and daily go for outdoor walks. I eat healthy and lead a relatively healthy lifestyle. I do not drink, smoke, do drugs or engage in cannabis.
  • I am INFJ by the MBTI, though I used to be ISFJ. Most likely I am somewhere in between. I am definitely an introvert and not a social person. I do well 1:1 and with small groups but you will seldom find me at social events. I am a reserved individual, not shy but not one to seek social interaction. However, if I feel comfortable with you, you will draw out the silly goofball in me :D
  • I am a very genuine person, not being able to be fake or to put on different personalities in different occasions. What you see is what you get.
  • I am all about understanding a person’s soul, his or her true identity. I prefer deep connections and thus am quite empathic. I do not value superficial connections.
  • I am hardworking, self-sacrificial, and determined.
  • I am a very gentle man, being affectionate and loving and not showing aggression unless continually provoked. I enjoy being a mentor, teacher, and protector.
  • Well educated, with a PhD from an ivy league school and a well-paying job in STEM; financially stable
  • I am very serious in my faith or as I like to say, in following Christ (I don’t like the term christian). This defines my identity, my mindset, and lifestyle.
  • Very traditional - chivalrous and self sacrificing leader in most aspects. I want to be a protective, loving provider/breadwinner
  • Nerdy - very into niche video games and anime/shows
  • A homebody - I’m not into traveling much, maybe 1-2 big trips a year at most. I prefer being cozy at home or going for walks in nearby nature
  • A father of two kids and previous marriage experience - I realize these are dealbreakers for most women but these are actually very valuable experiences that would be very beneficial for any future marriage.

I seek a woman who would be interested in getting to know each other so as to assess whether I should court her, aka date her with the intention of marrying her, in the near future. I am not seeking to rush into marriage and would rather let the relationship play itself out naturally. I am a traditional man and thus I envision a dynamic where I lead, protect, and provide, while she submits, supports, and is domestically-oriented. Mind you, I wish to lovingly support my future partner and so I would be flexible with her lifestyle, if that means staying at home or working. Ideally, this woman should have the following qualities. However, if you don’t fit everything perfectly and are interested in talking, please do reach out.

About You:

  • Preferably in USA, but not a hard requirement if you are willing to relocate
  • Traditional - You should want to live out a life of submitting to your husband and tending to the houshold/family.
  • Feminine - you like to be the least like a man as possible in appearance and behavior
  • Christian to some degree or open to become a Christ follower
  • Puts most importance in who a person is compared to their circumstances
  • Younger than me
  • In physical shape - you don't have to be a super model, but it is very important to me that you take care of your body so that you can be healthy.
  • Take care of your appearance - I wish for us to be physically attracted to each other, so you should dress decently and not look like a slob.
  • Have similar hobbies or at least some hobbies in common so that way we have something we can bond over and do regularly.
  • Personality-wise, please be humble and meek. I do not get along well with people who are judgmental or presumptuous.
  • Good communication skills. A relationship is difficult, and a marriage even more, so it is important that we can talk to each other clearly and work out any differences in a calm manner.
  • Would want to meet in person eventually in the future and not just have only online contact

I’m not certain that the woman I seek exists but if she does and you are her, please do reach out. I would like to find you one day and make you feel like the most special person in the world! Let's see what happens :) Thanks for reading my post and God bless.

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