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ā ļøPlease note: I am wordy. Extremely wordy. Iāve tried my best but I also want to be as specific and explain myself as much as possible, so Iāve ended up writing a bit of an essay. You have been warned. ā ļø
Basically, Iām a Christian with a lot of kinks who nevertheless tries to stick to the Bible, and Iām looking for my life partner, at least eventually. In the meantime Iād love just people to chat to, share interests and make friends with. I was raised in a pretty puritanical culture and Iām slowly trying to escape the unbiblical taboos, carefully scrutinizing the Good Book to make sure Iām only bucking baseless traditions, and am still submitting myself to Godās will.
I know sex and sexual deviancy is heavily shunned in a lot of more traditional Christian spheres, but I see no reason for it to be. Having sexual interests that would be considered āweirdā or āoddā are in no way ruled out in the Bible, as long as they donāt lead to sin.
My basic reason for posting this is I want a true life partner who gets along with me, and Iād hate to date someone for years, get married to her and only find out later that weāre sexually incompatible. So I figured, why not lay everything out on the table right here, right now, and hopefully I can find a woman whoās on the same wavelength as me. So, Iāll get to the sexual stuff later on, since I also want to get along with you as a person. Having a partner you only love for sexual pleasure is worse than having a partner you only like for their personality, IMO.
To start off, if anyone cares, Iād say Iām firmly planted on the libertarian-conservative side of the aisle. While I donāt believe you need to agree with your partner on everything, I also believe itās just not healthy if you canāt turn on the news in your house without getting into an argument.
So, now that 90% of you are gone after learning my political leanings, letās move forward. Iām a huge nerd (a lonely male nerd? Online? Gasp) and I have a variety of interests, some more than others. This list is by no means exhaustive, but Iāll try and make it in general a top-to-bottom ranking of my biggest interests down to my more (relatively) minor ones. And of course, you donāt have to be interested in all the things I am, just okay with me liking them/talking about them.
-Cats!!! š -Transformers!!! š¤ -Anime š„ļø(Has its own list, see below) -History š(not just military history. History is history, and Iām just as likely to talk to you about how Native Americans literally invented corn than about any random war battle. Also donāt get me started on the history of the English language, I could go for hours talking about why different rooms are named the way they are. Also youāre missing out of you donāt watch Time Team) -Board games š²(shockingly, I actually donāt know how to play DnD. Math scares me. Iād be willing to learn if youāre willing to be extremely patient with me š ) -Brick building systems š§±(Lego has gotten far too expensive lately so Iāve been pursuing off-brand products. Sue me) -Camping, hiking, general survival stuff š -readingš -cryptidsš¦ -And then the obligatory list of fandoms. Here we go: Transformers, G.I.Joe, War of the Worlds, Doctor Who, PokĆ©mon, Star Wars, Tolkien, Harry Potter, etc. My interest in these things fluctuates over time, sometimes I could hardly care less sometimes I take a month-long spell where Iām obsessed.
š„ļøAnime list:š„ļø ~ Girls und Panzer ~ Attack on Titan ~Izetta Die Leste Hexe ~Violet Evergarden ~Hellsing Ultimate ~Maid-Sama! ~Konosuba ~Highschool DxD ~Cat Planet Cuties ~ Love, Chuunibyo, and other Delusions! ~ Gunsmith Cats
Okay, now for the part youāve all skipped ahead to. The sexual stuff. First off, I donāt believe in sex (read: intercourse, orgasming on/with a partner) outside of marriage, but thereās obviously a lot of room to have fun outside of that. I love hugging, cuddling, kissing, making out, groping, (as long as itās not the crutch region) etc. And a lot more.
I also think discussing sex before marriage is important, because if we already know our interests, kinks, etc. are compatible we wonāt have all the worries of a traditional Christian couple that doesnāt even discuss sex until after or right before marriage; weād know what we like and dislike, weād know what to expect, we wouldnāt have to worry about whether or not weād be compatible. Basically weād know we were on the same page with everything and weād get along well in the bedroom well before we ever got married, so we wouldnāt have the lingering doubts of āis this really the right person for me? What if we donāt get along perfectly after marriage? What if they pressure me to do things Iām not into, or if Iām into things they wonāt touch?ā Etc.
As for other relationship-dynamic type stuff, the Bible does say that the man is the head of the woman, so she should submit to him. Iām not going to argue with that, but I also donāt want to be a dictator or a stronghanded controller, I want a partner who gets along with me because our personalities mesh well, not because I force her to suppress her own feelings and personality when ever it suits me. And of course like I said, Iām a raging libertarian who values freedom very highly. So as far as Iām concerned, your submission would go only as far as you want. Iāve had relationships where I choose what my girlfriend wears every day, her hairstyle, her lipstick, even down to parts of her daily schedule and whether or not she could use the bathroom. Iāve found that very fun and rewarding, but Iāve also had relationships where we got along as equals and everything from minor things to major decisions were discussed and agreed to amicably.
Now Iāll get to talking in-detail about kink. My kinks are very diverse and varied, and you, again, do not have to share all of them, or even be okay with all of them. Iāll respect your limits and boundaries. Obviously though, if you message me and youāre into like, 3 things from this entire list and the rest are hard limits, I doubt weāll find success as lovers. These are mostly my major kinks and I have a ton of minor ones, but hearts are beside the ones that I really, really canāt see myself going without. So without further ado, in no particular order:
~ breeding (I donāt want a bajillion kids (a few are fine though). I more so think the idea of pretending Iām breeding you is fun. Thank God for birth control) ā¤ļøāš„
~ light to medium pain
~ free use
~ light petplay (collars, ears and tail, etc)
~ Watersports/wetting
~ Degradation, name-calling, etc.
~ breast/nipple play, suckingā¤ļøāš„
~ lactation ā¤ļøāš„
~ misogyny
~ CNC
~ Being rough in generalā¤ļøāš„
~ Clothed sex/dry humping
~ Master/slave dynamic
Limits: -Scat -blood -sharing/cheating/cuckolding/swinging/whatever itās called these days -exhibitionism/voyeurism -knifeplay/blood or any kind -asphyxiation
A bit more to note: I donāt care how you look, as long as youāre healthy! I donāt care if you smoke, vape, etc, I donāt curse much but I donāt care if you do, and I donāt have an age preference as long as youāre legal and like, under 30. I hope this is obvious, but I also donāt care if you have interests or āinterestsā that I havenāt mentioned. I donāt care if you have tattoos, I donāt care if youāre a furry or if you have a weird fashion sense or if you like feet, as long as you think youād get along with me Iām game! will also note that I really like where I live and for a variety of reasons I canāt see myself moving too far, so if thatās a dealbreaker for you I understand. I donāt mind long-distance, and I like to take relationships at a pace weāre both comfortable with, so any sort of discussion about meeting up or moving would happen after a while, at the very least after weād gotten to know each other and become comfortable with each other. Ditto for pictures; I definitely donāt want to sext or anything, but before we get too serious Iād want some SFW live pictures for verification of course (again, one we got to know each other).
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