I have worked - and continue to work - hard in my life. I went from being homeless in my teens to being a well-respected leader in several of the world's most powerful and successful companies. I could have never imagined ending up here. What drove me? The desire to give my family the security, safety, and spousal/parental relationships we never had when I was growing up.

To that end, I want to find someone who is as passionate as I am about my primary goal in life: creating a healthy family. I pour my passion into creating a stable, loving environment full of opportunity and the ability to grow. I seek a partner whose passion is creating a nurturing, loving environment full of care, compassion, and comfort.

What you should expect from me:

• I will always treat you with love, respect, and consideration. I will consistently express my appreciation for your contribution to our home and family. I truly believe that each of our roles are no less important to the success of our family than the other.
• I will be clear about my expectations of you. When I feel you're falling short of those expectations, I will tell you. When you feel I'm falling short of my commitments to you, I will listen.
• I have a director-level role at a successful multinational company. We will live a comfortable, and on occasion, luxurious lifestyle. You will feel the security of owning a home. You will never worry about being hungry, cold, or unsafe. You will not feel economic pressure to work.
• I will maintain my health and fitness. I go to the doctor regularly. I do not smoke and I drink socially on rare occasions. I dress well, but not ostentatiously. I go to therapy regularly.
• I am well-respected among my local community and friends, and will continue to build and foster those connections and relationships with you and our family.
• I believe a man's role as a husband and father absolutely requires presence in both body and mind, and I am enthusiastic about both of those roles. I have built my career so that I can be flexible to be there for both important and everyday moments. While my job requires travel, I will always prioritize time with you and our family.
• I will always make time to date you, to make you feel special and appreciated for the romantic role you play in my life and the nurturing role you play in our family's. I will be supportive the hobbies and interests that make you, you. (Yes, let's check out that concert! I'd love to help you build that garden planter! Let's figure out how we make schedules work so you can take that Japanese class!)
• I am a leader, not an authoritarian. I have no interest in dictating you do things that you don't want to do, or ordering you around - but I will take the responsibility of making tough calls. I will always make decisions that I feel are in the best interest of our family. I will always consider your opinion with patience.
• I am a pretty neat person, and will clean up after myself and the children when I'm minding them. I will help out around the house where I can.
• I'm pretty handy. I'll fix the sinks, drain the water heater periodically, basic electrical and carpentry, lubricate door hinges (use tri-flow, not WD40!), maintain the cars, etc.
• I will be an enthusiastic and active participant in our children's lives, teaching them what I've learned in my life, encouraging them, and being a loving father.
• Our relationship will lead to marriage. We will have as many children as we feel we can manage. I will take care of you if you become sick, even seriously so.
• I have kinks, and prioritize having fun in the bedroom, but I will never force something on you that you don't want.

What I want in a partner:

• You truly love and feel called to the idea of creating a nurturing, supportive, and comfortable home life.
• Neither of us believe in corporally punishing our children.
• You live in, or are willing to move to, Southeast Michigan where we will raise our family (I love it here, my whole community is here, and I have a truly wonderful life that I want to share with you!).
• I understand feeling the need to have a job or pursuit for sanity's sake outside the home, but the family will take priority.
• You will share your opinion when you have one. I will not always make the decision you suggest, but you will support the decisions I make.
• You will take pride in your appearance and keep yourself in good health. I’m happy to ensure our budget includes whatever health, beauty and fitness desires you have.
• You value and are proud of your femininity.
• My love language is being cooked for. Seriously. I feel truly loved when I'm served a healthy, homemade meal. I feel appreciated, considered, and respected. I want that as part of our relationship.
• When you have difficult feelings, you will communicate them to me and I will always provide you with a safe space to do so. You are comfortable understanding your emotions. Therapy is a bonus.
• If you feel like I'm not living up to my commitments, you will tell me.
• You will help me continue to participate in our community and our friendships.
• You consider yourself sexually submissive, and you enjoy feeling lovingly owned. You seek an emotional and romantic connection before sex, and especially kink.

What I do NOT expect in a partner:

• I don't expect for you to be a virgin (I can't believe I have to say this tbh)
• I don't expect you to do the traditional scrubbing-and-spraying type of cleaning. We will hire people for that. I do expect that you clean up after yourself and, when necessary, after the children if you're looking after them (I'll be doing the same).
• I don't expect you to be perfect. I'm not perfect either. But I do expect both of us to approach each other with presumption of good intent and faith that we are both working towards a happy and healthy family life.

Listing dealbreakers up front:

• I'm divorced. It was amicable. We realized that we had very different ideas on how to raise children (I prioritized education, she believed in corporal punishment). We got together really young. We were divorced three years ago, and we no longer speak. I've worked through my feelings about this chapter of my life in therapy.
• I don't have the best relationship with my parents.
• I’m not a big social media person - posting isn’t really my thing.
• I have clinically-diagnosed ADHD (inattentive type). I am fortunate to have the resources to be treated by a team of world-renowned doctors, and it has been well-controlled with medication and therapy for a long time.
• I love emo music. Yes, Hawthorne Heights, Hot Mulligan, Say Anything, the whole bit. I went to When We Were Young in Vegas last year and I'm going again this year.

If you've read this far, send me a message and I'll send you a photo of myself. I'm 32, 6'2", 215 lbs, Polish-Irish-French ancestry, and a former D1 championship athlete who likes to stay in shape. I love cooking, reading, working on home projects, bringing friends out on my boat, long road trips, playing pool, skiing, my sports car, collecting fine wine, watches, watching hockey games and trying new restaurants. Looking forward to hearing from you!