Keep in mind the old joke "opinions are like assholes, everybody has one."

The following is what almost all men greatly desire in a gf/wife.

Also keep in mind, some of the following applies more to marriage than casual relationships, fwb's etc that some engage in. At least, they tend to rate or start "weighing" some of this more heavily than they otherwise would if they were only casually hooking up.

On to the list: (in no particular order of importance)

Fit and attractive.

Some men like a bit of a heavier woman. Many don't. They prefer a flatter stomach, overall toned body. Pretty face.

It's the first thing he's going to know about you. Before he can find out (and whether he wants to) how amazing you are on the inside, he's got to be drawn in by your looks.

So keep yourself fit and looking as good as you can for your man.

Loyalty / faithfulness

A woman can be off the charts amazing in many ways, but if she's a cheater, he's done. Sure, you can find exceptions, but they're exactly that. Exceptions. Outliers. If you're going to be with him, then be with him. Be loyal and faithful in every way, shape and form. Only for him.

Sex

All the time. Daily. Multiple times daily. However many times a week. Ideally your libidos match up, but if not, you move Heaven and earth to make it happen and very rarely say no.

A good man tempers this with love and understanding and if you're beyond tired, sick as a dog, etc then get to it when you can.

Otherwise, it's on like donkey kong!

And while sex includes a variety of things, special mention should be made for a woman giving head. Giving oral. Blowjobs. Whatever your preferred term. Almost all men love this. Do it often.

Commitment

Sounds similar to loyalty? Yes, but I'm referring to putting in the work to create and keep something truly special and worth fighting for.

And that's the thing. Do you fight for your man and the relationship? Are you committed to doing what it takes to have an extraordinary relationship/marriage?

Because many couples start out good or great, not as many make it to the finish line of life still as much in love as at the beginning, and ideally almost every time inbetween.

I'm not talking about being perfect. I'm talking about being committed and doing (daily) the things you know need to be done and keep the relationship humming and thriving and moving forward.

Some days you'll love doing this and it's fun and easy and joyful! Other times? Heh. You might wonder how long he might be out if you crack him with the frying pan. Be committed. Put in the work.

As long as your actions remain consistent, your "bad" days will get better and eventually get back to where you want them.

But if you have to do things you may not want even on those tougher days and weeks.

Yes, this goes both ways, but I'm mainly writing to women in this post.

Submission/Obedience

Men love this. It makes for far better relationships and marriages. It truly is the best dynamic and yes, it helps tremendously if you have a good man who can lead well and has some common sense about him. Books can (and have) been written on it.

But obey him.

Be happy and generally cheerful

No man likes a nagger. Or a contentious woman. Or an always down, complaining, whining, everything is always bad negative nellie.

A man is asking for you to always have some goofy grin on your face all the time. He would love for you to be someone who is cheerful and happy most of the time and just a joy to be around.

Be his help mate

Learn to serve. Find ways to please him. Be proactive. See if you can find areas where you can serve and please him, and improve his life in some way.

Try and make his life easier, better, more successful. Help in any way you can.

Be a virgin or either keep a lower body count

Many men don't care as long as you're "clean" if all they want is a fwb or short term fling or affair or even a longer term thing where they have a steady supply of pussy.

But putting a ring on it?

They tend to care more.

A virgin is ideal. (as long as she doesn't have sexual hang ups about hearing "No. Wait" (And all kinds of horror stories about sex) and all of that so much that it creates issues. There are very pro-sex virgins out there eager to get to it when they find the right match for them and in a committed relationship/marriage.

But do keep your N count or body count as low as possible.

Honestly, if a man has a choice between two women and they are close to equal in almost every way if you were to rate them, but one has a large body count and the other a much smaller one, he will almost always choose the woman with the lower one if there's a significant difference.

Honesty.

Keeping up with the body count thing, men love honesty in everything. A woman who tells the truth about her body count ranks higher than the one who doesn't, generally speaking.

Because if she lies about this, what else will she lie about? A man needs to know things about his woman, and the commitment he may make to her is dependent on her telling him the truth about a great number of things and not withholding pertinent information.

What if a woman found out a man was a former drug user? Homosexual but later changed? Been bankrupt 3 times because he was always taking massive financial risks? You'd want to know this as a woman, right? But what if he hid many things from you like this?

It's the same with men. They want a very honest woman to share their lives with. And female body count is just one of many things that men discuss, so using it as an example here. Opinions vary, but an honest woman with a higher count beats a dishonest one with a lower one, most times, not all.

Now, about honesty. It's within reason. I don't mean the "That guy made a fool of you! You're lucky you didn't get your ass beat and besides, you need to bulk up or learn to fight, you come across as a bit of a pussy."

Perhaps not that much, OK? :)

Which leads me to my next point...

Tact.

Learn to say what you need to say with deference and tact and politeness. It goes a very long way. And that's probably an understatement.

Respect/reverence

Cannot be overstated. Women who respect men and demonstrate that in their attitude and actions are incredibly appealing and pull a man in.

I could keep going and I'm sure many of ya'll could add innumerable things to this list.

Please do add and share more in the comments.

But if you're looking for a "quick and dirty" list and a friendly reminder of what (most) men want, this is it!

Quick note: While much of this applies to men across a broad spectrum, it's more applicable to traditional men, and their preferences.