ok, I understand the difference... for the most part, as such:

GUILT TRIPPING is essentially placing a burden on someone else for the feelings of ones self, usually in a passive to passive aggressive behavior, it is making someone else responsible for the way ones self feels usually when feelings of unfairness are the motivation for manipulating someone else so that his or her reactions from feeling guilt affect ones self in a way that change how they feel to a more stable or perceivably stable sense;

FEELING GUILT is essentially a normal reaction to the way one may have mistreated someone else, whether actually doing so or perceiving so - negatively treating someone else SHOULD cause ones self to feel guilty for it, again whether it is perceived to be or actually is. guilt feelings should not stem from an outside influence but can in the case of one simply expressing his or her feelings without placing the burden to change those feelings onto someone else.

my question is when does guilt become toxic guilt tripping exactly? for the ignorant may not even be aware of his or her effect on another and when that effect becomes clear by explaining how it makes one feel, without the expectation or burden being placed, it can still constitute feeling guilty with out actually guilt tripping someone, or can it?

please help me distinguish the boundaries that qualify healthy feelings of guilt from toxic manipulative guilt tripping.