Idc if she has a reddit and sees this. Maybe it'll be a wake up call. Bg info: I'm 31, she's, I think, 28.

So I've known Stacy for almost a decade. She watched my oldest grow up and helped me deal with the drama of cutting off the ex who was a danger to my oldest at the time. We met working at the local haunted house and bonded over scare techniques and having fun in our scene. We kept in touch over the years. Ff to this year. Shes helped me come out as poly but I've had a lot of time (in between contact with her) to reflect on how she behaved.

Breakdown: -She would only come over when she needed someone to talk to, hardly accepted our out of the blue invites -I spent 40$ on her at goodwill to help her cheer up one day when complained about the status of her "on off" triad. (He wasn't ready for poly, pressured by other girl only for other girl to push Stacy away.) -when she expressed interest in my fiancee and I, the three of us agreed once in a while she could join us. -Stacy only seemed to want to hang out when she needed someone else to cry to

I think it was pretty toxic. But, idk I guess I just want outside perspective.

Eta: she didn't ever join is, teased the idea, and she seemed only interested when we were of use to her