(Mobile user, sorry) Me: 31 yo poly woman My fiancee: 29 yo non-poly man Lacy: 27 yo poly friend I've known for 10 years... So last year my friend, I'll call her Lacy, helped me come out to my fiancee by telling me she was poly and would help. She did help me tell him and while it didn't go well, it still went decently. (Last time I came out, I was traumatized.) Well, a couple months later, Lacy expressed interest in me and my fiancee. We talked it over and agreed that when schedule allowed, the three of us would have some adult fun. She started playing cat and mouse, ghosting me. It goes for about two and a half weeks. At first her reasons were fairly decent: work schedule up in the air with a new position, roommate drama with lease problems. But after a month, I was losing patience. The last time we hung out, it was fine. Until the day after. On my way to work, my man and I are casually talking about Lacy and what she told us. He was surprised I had waited so long for her. When I asked what he meant, he said "well she told me that she had been screwing around with some other guy to try and make her ex jealous." Wait, what now? So we talk about the different reasons she gave us. We exchange phones and sure enough, stories are different. She'd even ditched me to hang out with my mom! Now I'm mad. I had recently opened up to her about a "friend" I cut off for lying one too many times to me. So now this. She had told me it was work and her roommates. I confront her. She brushes it off and I get a half assed apology. "I'm sorry for how things turned out." Not an "I'm sorry for lying," or "I'm sorry I wasn't honest," just a half assed sounding "sorry you found out." We part ways that day and I decided that if after 10 years she couldn't just be honest about why she didn't want to hang out, that it wasn't worth it. I'm at the point in my life where I just want positivity and productivity, not toxicity and lies. And that's why I don't talk to her anymore.