I probably didn't explain it as much as I should have. I was talking in a post about cutting off a lot of family because they're not supportive. I asked what is the point of talking to family if they don't support me? They would just say "well are you supporting them"? Then they say I should do everything I can to fix/amend things with them. All I feel like that will do is just open things up and make things worse. A lot of my family enabled my narcissistic abusive grandmother. They stood by her and said that what she was doing was ok. While I was made out to be problematic and crazy. She's gone now and she's been gone for years. My uncles haven't really changed all that much. Much of my family doesn't love me unconditionally. If I ask most of them to do anything for me it's always "well you owe me" or it's a real inconvenience for them. There's a good reason I've gone no contact with a lot of them. Only recently did I talk to some of them again. I don't know if anything will really change with them. It hasn't seemed to.