So, I have just come from a 13 year relationship which ended up falling apart because we became friends not lovers (3 years without sex).

The route of this was that she os vanilla and I am not, not itself a problem but unfortunately she was so shy she wouldn't even discuss after we attempted my proclivities, which meant I could never feel truly comfortable since it always felt like I was subjecttong somone to something they were enduring for my benefit and not something we were mutually exsploring.

Well that ended surprisingly amicableably and now I find myself free to explore a whole new world.

So I went to a munch and it was wonderful, I met a beautiful confidant gothy, mouthy sub girl I later matched with on feeld.

Now I have no real idea exactly what I am, aside being vaguely sure I'm a switch but going from her bio she is looking for a d/s relationship as the s.

Now I'd be living if I didn't admit I'm a little bit more than intreaged, however the issue lies in our relative exsperiance.

Now the bedrooms fine, sensual domining is absolutely my jam, I take far more pleasure in my partner's exsperiance than my own, and I'm also rather fond of spanking, especially the psychology and anticipation.

Where I am hopelessly out of my depth is how things work in the day to day, both private and public.

Honestly how the hell does this work? A subtle chocker as a collar fine, codewords and a stearn look ok I can see that. But cuddling on the sofa, cooking dinner, out with friends? There I am completely lost.

Now I know each relationship is different and communication is key but I wouldn't mind a couple of tips and suggestions so when we go into that conversation I don't sound like a complete idiot and most importantly I don't make a blunder that is disrespectful or off putting.

And to be blunt I come across so naive she decides training me up might be just a bit to much work.

So internet peeps what pithy advice can you throw this poor lost puppy's way to help me aquit myself with a little dignity? Xxx