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30 [F4M] Toronto - Don't beat yourself up about connections that don't last.
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yourwandress is a female age 30 looking for a male
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EDIT: FOUND SOMEONE :)

If you've been on here before, you know what I’m talking about. Most of my conversations end up with either things fizzling out, or outright getting ghosted. I'm pretty sure it's not an uncommon occurrence either, with the amount of salty posts I’ve seen of people who are "over getting ghosted over and over" on here. I'm just saying, don't feel too bad about it. Don't blame yourself, and don't blame the other person either.

It's pretty easy to feel like shit about always getting ghosted. I get that. It sucks when you find someone so interesting, realizing after a few days that the feeling wasn't mutual. I get that too. Honestly though, I've been on either side of the situation plenty of times before, and that's okay. It's not that bad. When you really think about it, you shouldn't get offended when things don't work out. We're all on here taking stabs in the dark. We're typing into the void, hoping that maybe, just maybe, we find someone who's just the right kind of messed up to match with how we're messed up. More often than not, things won't work out.

Just because someone responds to your post or you respond to theirs, doesn't automatically mean you or they're obligated to stick with each other until the end. It's easy to project that negativity towards yourself and feel like crap for "never being good enough" to keep people engaged. It's also just as easy to project that negativity to the other person and feel like every person you meet on here are assholes who can't stop ghosting people to save their lives.

I've come to realize that the truth is, most people you meet and talk to don't end up being the kind of person you're looking for in the end, and that's okay. There doesn't always have to be a reason when things don't work out. Sometimes, it's enough to know that they don't. Don't let these feelings of negativity keep you from continuing to find what you're looking for. You never know what you might find.

If you're there looking for that connection, hit me up because I am too, still. No promises, but you never know, right? I miss feeling the excitement of getting to know someone new. I miss having someone to be myself with completely. I miss the feeling of having someone excited when I message. I miss being stupid around someone who's just as stupid as me. I miss the feeling of being wanted, of being needed, of wanting, of needing.

If you've made it this far, thanks for reading. I do hope some of you message me so we can see how it goes, and if I'm not what your looking for, I genuinely hope you do find what you're looking for on here. :)

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