Hello everyone,

Welcome to my hardcore cringe post.

35 year old man here. Turned 35 earlier this year.

My dating experience for the past few years has been okay. I've met women that liked me and I've met women that I've liked. I've had some relationships but they didn't last past a few weeks or months.

I had one long term relationship that lasted 5 years and ended in 2019.

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About me:

• Into health and fitness - I have an athletic build
• STEM Bachelor with a good job
• I drive
• I rent
• Have hobbies
• Take care of myself (groomed and dress well)
• White guy, dark hair
• Would like kids some day
• Wear glasses for that 1 intelligence boost and also because I can't see
• Live close to Liberty Village
• Never married, no kids
• Don't smoke anything, including cannabis (I'm open to edibles)
• Rarely drink (socially if anything)
• No allergies
• Lived abroad for almost 2 decades
• Speak a few languages
• Can cook, big foodie
• Play instruments and can sing, very into music
• Short guy
• I have my hair
• Used to have a dog
• Raised Catholic but not religious at all, don't believe in anything
• Parents alive and still together
• I read
• ENTJ personality

Deal breakers:

• Smokers (cannabis is okay)
• Hardcore drugs (anything beyond alcohol/cannabis)
• Has kids
• Divorced/separated
• (Very) Religious
• Vegan

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What prompted this post:

I'm a short guy. I stand at 5'4" (too short for some women) but I've been told I'm good looking (comparison I commonly get is Henry Cavill). So maybe some women are in to me, maybe some are not.

Women match with me and I go on dates, so the height thing doesn't seem to be too much of a hindrance. I know it's a turn off for most women and I'm cool with that. I've dated as tall as 5'10" and as short as 5'0". If we click, we click.

I've noticed that for most women that I like, they seem to lose interest:

• After the 1st or 2nd date; or
• If we haven't met, after talking for about 2 weeks.

I'm obviously doing something wrong.

I have been trying to figure out what I am (doing) that is off putting:

1. Is it the height thing, and once we meet they find they're not into it?
2. Could it be that the way I am when I'm into someone turns women off (too eager, etc)?
3. Could it be that my general personality/behavioral traits are a turn off/red flag? Maybe I have the emotional intelligence of a rubik's cube.
4. Just simply not their type?

At times, I will ask why they're not interested but most women are not comfortable sharing that information.

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Why the post:

I'm looking to talk to and meet women (date), with mutual attraction/interest, who are open on giving me honest feedback if it doesn't work out. If it turns in to something and I meet my soul mate: wonderful. If not, maybe you can give me some brutal honesty about why you're not into me.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask. If you think I should update my post with some information, please let me know. If you're interested, send me a message.

Thanks for reading my post if you made it this far. Good luck to everyone, regardless.

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tl;dr: it's me, I'm the problem it's me.