Hi there,

This is one of the crazier things I've ever done while looking for love but I figure it's worth a try. I'm a 35 year old, 5'7" beautiful, well-educated woman but somehow can't seem to find a mate. I go on what seems like an endless string of first dates. The guys who are most interested in me aren't my type or don't have much in common with me. So I figure I'll just put out into the universe a little bit about me and a little bit about my ideal man and see if anything comes up. Feel free to drop me a line if you fit the description and you are also ready to find the one and stop meaningless dating with inevitable goodbyes.

Let's see...might as well start with the basics, I'm tallish at 5'7" and not so tall that it should be that hard to find someone a bit taller than me (don't worry I'm not one of those girls who demands a guy be 6 feet). I like to wear heels and guys typically like if I wear them too so let's have the heights right for that. Sorry short kings! I know that you are great guys too but this is the description of my dream guy. I like it if a guy has hair that's long enough to play with. I'm in shape and appreciate a man who is as well. We want to be healthy for each other after all. I know it might seem shallow to start with the physical first, but humans are still animals and attraction starts off with physical attraction and grows with the emotional and intellectual connection after the initial spark.

The mind comes next...at risk of sounding pretentious I would call myself a sapiosexual. I respect a well-educated mind and appreciate a sharp intellect. I spent time to do two master's degrees and would like someone who shares my passion for knowledge and who has has a similar dedication and discipline for academic exploration. I enjoy both playful and deep conversations and need someone who can engage in both to be fulfilled. It's been surprisingly difficult to find well-educated single men in Toronto. I recently went on a date with someone whose profile said they had a graduate degree but in person he confessed to have just taken a few courses at Centennial. Sigh.

The heart....most important of all...I hope you share my love of the arts. I love going to the symphony, opera, ballet, jazz performances, galleries, and museums. It's okay if you like sports, but if you don't also like the arts then we're not going to have much to connect on. I'm willing to go to a sports game but it would never be my personal first choice of what to do. I want to stroll through a gallery with you and discuss an intriguing painting. I want to hold your hand at the opera. I want to put my head on your shoulder at the ballet. I want to dance with you in a dimly lit jazz club. Speaking of dancing, I hope that you also like dancing a bit. I like swing dancing, waltz, and am taking a tango class. Maybe you could be my dance partner?

That said, in the day to day I enjoy normal chilling activities too like watching tv shows and movies. I like that old sitcom Frasier. They make me laugh every time. I'm hopelessly addicted to a daytime drama but won't tell you which one yet. I also like the various Star Trek series and medical dramas like House and The Resident.

I speak English and French. It would be cool if you did too. That said, if you speak another language I can try to learn it. It's easier with romance languages of course. I'm willing to try though!

I like baking a lot. I also like cooking but need to expand my repertoire. My ideal match knows how to cook. I find it so attractive when a guy cooks.

The nuts and bolts, I'm pretty attached to living in the west end of Toronto. Hopefully you're open to that. I don't feel the need to live downtown at this point in my life but if you owned a place downtown I would consider it. I'm a strong believer in the importance of owning over renting so I'd hope that you'd be building towards buying something together or own something already that would open up our options to build and grow together. In Toronto it often takes a team effort to break into the market unless one managed to buy ten years ago or during the pandemic.

Faith...I don't care what religion you have or whether or not you still practice, it does matter to me that you also share a basic belief in a creator though. Although I know that there are respectful atheists, I think it would be easier if we didn't understand the universe in such fundamentally different ways.

This was not a very romantic post. I'm sorry for that. I actually am a hopeful romantic. I believe in love. I value romance. I want to enjoy the aesthetic of romance and create it with you and for you through gestures big and small and meaningful, beautiful words. I believe that love is a verb and a choice. You have to choose to love someone every day and then follow through by practicing love actively. I'm ready for that. If you are too, write to me.

Sincerely,

JaneAustenfangal