For a long period of my adult life I thought the reason all my relationships failed miserably was because they ended up morphing into my dad somehow. I wouldn’t see it in the moment but of course hindsight 20/20 after the fact. The tendencies would be the same, mannerisms, thought processes. Then I got to wondering it can’t be that every person I date reminds me of my dad. Rather the fact that they hold similarities to the man that fathered and abandoned me. And the kicker here is I always dump them. So maybe I am chasing after my dad and trying to get even with these men.

Maturity is realizing that I wasn’t dating my dad. I was more attracted to men that resembled him because it’s what’s familiar to my trauma and what I equate to being love.

Maturing is realizing men are just trash 🗑️. They are not hardwired to be as compassionate, empathetic and nurturing like us. So of course I’m going to find distasteful similarities with my dad that most men share.

I just have hit the point in my life where I do not believe good men exist. There are men that are better than most where by they financially support you, do not SA you, or physically abuse you or cheat on you. Key word here is better not good. But I don’t think they are good people by nature. We just are able to tolerate them better than the others because they provide a safety blanket. That’s why we date ugly men let’s be honest. They aren’t built like us. Men are just more cruel.

I WOULD IN FACT CHOOSE THE BEAR🐻 OVER A MAN