Hey everyone. So I really want to be able to bottom, but every time there is always unbearable pain. They’ll use lube and go slow and it will still result in so much pain. I’m pushing out like everyone says and I’m relaxed up until the pain is unbearable and then tighten up. I’ve tried partaking in 420 and that still doesn’t help. Should I try poppers? I’ve used them topping sometimes and I’ve loved them.

I just don’t know what else to do cause I think deep down I’m more a bottom than a top. One option is switching up lube cause I think last time I used water based lube. But even still I don’t think I should be struggling as much as I am since the water based doesn’t immediately dry out and plus people use spit lol. Any tips? Thank y’all I’m advance!