So some background. I'm recently out of a long term relationship. I'm a heteroromantic, masculine bisexual bottom. I'm not ready for a relationship and so I've been wanting to explore my bi side more. Ideally I'd like to find a fwb. Ive been on grindr and on doublelist and have been striking out over and over.

Let me start off by saying that I know there are all different kinds of turn ons, personalized, and person preferences. But generally speaking, what is it that either turns tops away, or draws them in?

Is it because I'm bi? Because I can't host a meet up (yet, I'm getting my own place in 2 weeks)? My age (45)? My guy next door masculinity? Is there a better place to look? And no, I'm not out and don't really plan on it either.

Not looking for attacks or anything, just general advice, conversation, or constructive criticism.