I’m 22M, have always bottom before. I enjoy longer sensual sessions with older men (40-50 ). Just kissing and touching their bodies make me hard already. I’m also more of an active bottom than a lazy one (just lying down and waiting to be penetrated).

Recently, I want to try topping as well. But whenever I do so, I have trouble staying hard while navigating my cock to my partner’s anal. I guess there’s a bit of mentality there - worrying I might not satisfy my partner as I never top before. I also don’t know how much force I have to apply to penetrate... so, questions to all top:

1. How much time do you need to navigate your cock to the other person’s anal? If it gets soften during the process, what would you do?

2. My dick only reached 9-10cms fully erect. Is it not enough to penetrate someone? What would be the strategies / positions here?

Any suggestions are welcome!