Hey guys, what's up, 31yo top here with some questions!

Being very straightforward: I'm crazy hot for guys that instinctively think of their butt as their only pleasure spot and completely ignores their dick. If their dick could remain soft, I'd prefer but I don't get overly controlling about it.

However I do want my bottom to cum with me possibly without touching himself. I was able to accomplish that with an ex boyfriend only once (and I won't go much into details, but basically I didn't allow him to touch himself and dirty talked to him while also not allowing him stop riding me until he came). It's silly but gave me a sense of pride.

I watch a lot of porn with that happening (though there is a lot of faking) and I was thinking on how much you guys think handsfree orgasms are an actual thing to consider for sex or just a porn bait?

Is it not for everybody? Do you have to be born with the gift? lol Or do you train to reach there? How would you say the top could help in the training (besides providing the dick)?

Greetings from Brazil!