Hello, I am genuinely, joyfully vers. But I commit: when I’m with my exclusively bottom buddies they can’t believe I bottom too. When I’m with top guys, they can’t imagine me topping. Then we have a threesome and they lose their horny little minds to see me switch.

Anyway, when I bottom, I can get into a DEEP bottom headspace. Last week I met a very lovely Dom top who got me on my knees, ass high, chest down on the fuck bench and worked my hole with cock and toys. I was dimly aware at the time I was making some noise but it wasn’t until afterwards when we were tidying up that he commented on it.

I’m calling it “the growl”.

It wasn’t a moan or a groan. It was this primal sound that I made almost unconsciously as he worked on my hole: he pushed in, the sound was pushed out. If you’re imagining the “ooh, aah”s from a porn film, it wasn’t like that. It was deep, unconscious and I honestly don’t think I could make the same sound right now because this was a sound from another place. I don’t know if you’ve seen The Exorcist… goodness knows what people outside could hear (the windows were open, we were a floor above a busy and highly gentrified shopping street. I probably traumatised the JWs and a yummy mummy.)

It’s happened to me a few times, and deep into a session I’ve got a similar noise out of bottoms who I particularly “click” with. Anyone else experienced this? Anyone know some tips to get there? It feels like a real but rare phenomenon that we should explore.