Something that is super confusing to me is why people get mad at and shame someone who is not happy that they were put in the friendzone by someone they like. I see this most often done by women to men but I hear it happens to women at times too. I was watching something on a reality type show the other day and a girl who had been dating a guy exclusively for 3 months decided that she was no longer attracted to him but wanted to keep him around as a friend. He was heart broken as he really liked her but he also stood his ground and told her that he had no interest in just being friends with someone for whom he had feelings and he wanted to walk away and not be in her life. She had the nerve to tell him he was being selfish and that to remove himself from her life completely was cruel(kind of like leading him on for 3 months and then dumping him abruptly).

While it is her right to decide she no longer wants to be romantically involved with him it is also his right to decide he does not want to be friends with him. I actually read an article a few years back that I wish I could find so I could include the link. This girl was so full of herself that she was blasting this guy for being bummed out that she only wanted to be friends with her. It wasn't like he did anything bad or was a "nice guy" trying to guilt her. The net of it was he wanted more than friendship, she only wanted friendship and he was understandably not happy about it. Kind of like what happened in the reality show I just mentioned, he elected to just walk away and she ripped him from stem to stern for not being over the moon about just being her friend and even had the gaul to say that her "friendship was a privilege". I've seen this pop up here on Reddit and on other blogs and I don't understand it. Since when did unrequited love become something that a man is supposed to feel grateful for? When we see this happen to someone like Amy Schumer or Rebel Wilson in a romantic comedy nobody gets angry at them for being unhappy when they are relegated to the "cool chick friend" by the guy they like. As a matter of fact everyone is rooting for her to get that guy she likes and for the guy to wake up and see what a catch she is. Why then is it that when a man decides he would rather walk away than stick around for something that will be painful and frustrating he gets treated like he is some kind of jerk?