I'm not looking for words of encouragement, just opinions.

I(33M) am on the Autism spectrum and while I'm self sufficient, I struggle with communication and am quite introverted. I have never been on a date before and part of that is because of my personality. Like most people with a mental disability I know I can be a bit much at times without knowing I'm being that way in the moment. I usually become aware of it when I am mentally going over every interpersonal interaction I had throughout the day. With that said, I can't see how I wouldn't be a burden to a woman that chose a relationship with me. It may sound foolish, but I couldn't bear it if I were to bring even a moment of pain to to a woman kind enough to give me her love. It seems logical that my communication limitations would cause tension that she wouldn't find with a man with better social skills.

In the same vein of fairness, my inexperience would add a lot of unnecessary burden that she wouldn't find with a "normal" man. I'm almost 20 years behind everyone else romantically. That's not a small thing.

I guess my question is, given my limitations and inexperience isn't it unfair to the woman to ask her to accept so much burden for me? I know people believe that every deserves a chance at love, but is that true if it's at somebody else's expense?

Sorry for being long winded. The idea of being a burden scares me. What scares me even more is that she would blame herself and I would end up being one of the toxic boyfriends people talk about without even knowing it.

Thanks everyone.