It’s a very hard balance of things. The hubs and I have been in the lifestyle for over 10 years. And in those years you can find plenty men to bring into your bedroom. But most have very high standards or are picky. The correct answer will change couple to couple. The things that can help or are base of what I’m looking for when we look is hygiene, knowledge, and respect. That’s the foundation. And then from there physical characteristics and what not. However in my case I’m a size queen so the next thing right after the foundation is the size. But that’s not the same for all. Depending on your couple being open to a regular thing is a big one too. Most men just want to get a nut and be done. Consistency can go a long way if you are what they are looking for in bed and in day to day life. Also to throw this out there as well sometimes the couple is the issue. Reddit I have found can have a lot of just looking or hey it’s our first time. And those situations usually never go great. ALSO (this goes into the knowledge portion) do your RESEARCH not every COUPLE is a cuck situation. You MUST learn the different types or levels of cuck play yes. HOWEVER there is such a thing as a STAG. And I cannot tell you how many men have jumped in the inbox being to forward an demeaning my hubs thinking EVERY couple looking is for cuck. There’s a big difference in the degrading demeaning and insulting roles here. For stags this part does not exist. They do not wanna be inferior talked to as if they are or told they are while watching the activities. I can tell you there are way more stags in the lifestyle than you may imagine. And they don’t know why cuck just does not feel right but it feels right. Because they do not care for the degrading insulting or inferiority. Just watching there partner in pleasure and enjoying it. So doing homework and not assuming the status of someone’s bedroom activities goes a long way. And it can be confusing yes like me a size queen most assume my hubs wants to see me with bigger men. But don’t know my hubs has a trouser snake that rearranges my insides lol. Asking is the best thing you can do. So many well hung good looking men have lost a chance due to lack of knowledge. Also to go back to what I said above Reddit couples can be a bit wishy washy. So try FETLIFE and the pleasure 365 group on there. Now I apologize for the ramble.