I have two weeks where I have reason to think that I'll be a bit more motivated to get out of the house, and figured I'd use that motivation to find out if I can actually get out of my comfort zone and enjoy hookups, or if it's not for me.

I usually feel the need to talk for a long time and really get to know someone before even meeting him, and if I ever end up wanting to meet someone for more than that first walk or whatever, I usually like them enough by then to want to keep them around. But I don't want any more relationships so that's a bit of a failure.

Anyway, I don't know if I'm demisexual or just have a bit of social anxiety and introversion and low motivation to do things I'm not used to, but I would like to find out. And the stereotype seems to be that it's very easy for women to find men for sex.

Matched with a guy, intent on sticking to plan and it went fine. We talked for a couple of days, busy schedule this week but I told him I'd get back to him about next week. After two days, I told him I'm free on Thursday next week and asked if that would work for him.

Opened the app to see if he replied and he's gone.

No big deal of course, but really not how I expected that to go lol... He seemed so eager, and decently sane too. Didn't seem like the type who just wants to sext and never actually meet.

Thinking back, I did try something similar once a few years ago and got stood up.

Of course he could have gotten banned, decided to go exclusive with someone else, or some other reason altogether but cold feet seems like the simplest explanation. Is that common?