I just got on Tinder 2 days ago for the first time in 10 years. I made a profile and I have already gotten matches while being in "incognito mode." I am not ready to put myself fully out there since Maui is small. However, I have messaged the ones I matched with and didn't receive a reply. What's the typical time a girl responds? I felt like I tried to be clever in what I said to them so it wasn't plain. Should I wait a day or two before trying to message again? What's the next step? I don't know what dating is even like any more.

In case you're not familiar, incognito mode makes it so I am only in their card stack after I have liked them so they see the "its a match" part right away.