A quick list of 3some DON'TS:

1) Don't Try to separate the female of a couple

This is something that happens a lot - a couple will have no success finding a 3rd, so they will move on to seeking another couple, but then try and either talk them into only having the female play or will go along with the plan to have a 4some but then get "uncomfortable" right before the meetup and state that they are now only comfortable with the female. Don't do this!!! If you are truly uncomfortable, you need to go back to searching for a 3rd. If you're just 'settling' for a couple because you couldn't find a 3rd, don't try and steer things into a 3some. Be open and honest always. You might find you'd have more fun with a couple than you originally thought.

2) Don't Solicit someone you know for a 3some with you.

People don't generally like being approached with a 3some request, and will take offense to it, unless that person has previously done or had serious thoughts about participating in one. And, it could be considered sexual harassment if you ask. Unless the person has previously invited you to a play party or other group sex event, It is best to NOT try this.

3) Don't Have one partner manage an app profile/chat/text on behalf of both of you.

This is a turn-off for a lot of potential partners because it comes across as fake or deceptive. You also leave your partner out of the discussion and have to catch them up. You may also miss things that they would be uncomfortable with. Make your profile together, choose your photos together and text together in a group chat. You'll have more success and smoother play dates for it.

4) Don't Pester people.

This goes for before as well as during, from asking if someone wants to join to asking about doing a particular position or act. There's a saying, "Once is asking, Twice is checking, Three times is harassment". If someone is hesitant or unsure about anything, just take it as a No and leave the ball in their court.

5) Don't Pressure and/or Manipulate someone to cross boundaries.

If a partner has a limit they've discussed, such as 'No Kissing', Don't try to get them to do it anyway, whether through coercion or a "slow play" (gradual manipulation to get them to change their mind). Respect the boundaries and be a good and respectful person. You might find that the more respectful you are, the more a partner might be willing to open up and do more things. But you definitely won't get it by pressuring or manipulation.

6) Don't Send dick pics unless specifically asked.

This one is for the guys, both single and in a couple: Do. Not. Send. Dick. Pics. I get that you are on a site where people are looking for sex, and it's a double standard that the girls get to post boobs pics without getting as much flak for it, but know that this is the culture and everyone AB👏SO👏FUC👏KING👏LUTE👏LY hates it when a guy sends an unsolicited dick pic. This is a sure-fire way to get yourself blocked and have ZERO chance with anyone. If it's requested of you, and you're comfortable sending one, then go for it. Otherwise, just don't send it. You will never have success by doing so.

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