My partner and I (mid-30s) have been dating nonmonogamously for just under a year and while I’ve had a handful of threesomes as a single female, my partner has had years of threesomes, group play, swinging, and more.

I’m interested in doing all of these things with my partner, but have needed some time to wrap my head around the mindset shift of doing this as a single female to doing this with someone I’m emotionally and romantically involved with. When I bring up scenarios / scenes I want to do with him in a threesome or group setting, he typically responds with some variation of he’s already done it and I get deflated because it’s not a first that we’ll experience together. It reminds me how inexperienced I am compared to him, like I have a lot of catching up to do.

Do you have any advice on how to manage not feeling deflated / insecure because my partner is so much more experienced than I am?

Crossposting since I’m unsure where this post best fits