I found out a couple years ago it was my wife's fantasy to have a mfm threesome. Took me completely by surprise and to be honest I was against it at first. I definitely wasn't ready. It took us a couple years of sharing and communicating and for me to talk to experienced people (with her encouragement) and see how I felt about it. She never put any pressure on me and gave me complete control on if or when it would happen. Well after a couple years I was ready and we had a close trusted friend that we asked to be our third as neither of us were comfortable with strangers and he had experience with couples in the past. Went over boundaries and thoughts and then...it happened.

I will say I was very nervous but looking forward to the experience and happy to see how excited she was. Needless to say she had an incredible time. She said afterwards she absolutely loved every second of it. I just wanted to ask...

Is it normal to have some insecurities pop up a bit afterwards? Everything was good during the height and excitement of play itself but I definitely saw and heard her react in ways I wasn't used to and afterwards had the thoughts "did she like sex with him more than she does with me?" "Is sex solo with me going to be the same to her after that?"

I'm processing it all and our marriage is great. Just wasn't expecting my brain to have that reaction. Has anyone else dealt with this sort of thing?