My wife and I are looking for a female friend and after reading much advice from the community (Thank you all) we have decided to create a joint dating profile. I say joint, but she will be running it since that seems less threatening and is in-line with the collective wisdom of this group. It's really important to me that we go about this as ethically as possible so I want to be very upfront and open about everything with any potential matches we may talk to.

Someone once gave the advice, from the perspective of a 3rd, and ask WHY someone should want to join you? What makes my wife and I a better option than other couples?...maybe better isn't the right word but hopefully everyone understands what I'm getting at.

My initial response was because we are relatively young and more attractive than not. We enjoy spending time with people, and hate the thought of "using" someone. I think a perfect situation would be to find a true friend that we can do all kinds of things with not just the sexy stuff. We do not want to be pushy about anything ever. I think this is from a book but I believe that If someone isn't saying "Hell yes I want this" than it should probably be a "Hell No". I'm very ok with that.

All of that made me wonder what are green flags women see when talking to a couple? It feels a little selfish to just think about the needs and wants of my wife and I. I would really like to understand the needs and wants of the other person involved. Maybe with enough input we could put together a halfway decent bio on the dating app and meet some truly great people.

What do you think?