We've all heard the story before: you meet someone out in everyday life, they were cute, they seemed into you, and you wonder if they would be into having a threesome with you. Maybe there was even some flirting or subtext in the conversation that could be interpreted as interest or even a proposition.

THE REALITY: for the most part, people are NOT into threesomes. It is a very small percentage of the population that engages in threesomes. You have about a .2 chance of guessing correctly that someone is into it. So most of the people you meet will not be interested, even if they are being flirty or seemingly dropping hints.

THE RISK: If you proposition them, you take a big risk. At very the least you risk offending them; but at the most, you risk them considering it sexual harassment and reporting it.

So what can you do????

For the most part, finding a threesome naturally is very rare, and that person you met is likely not into it, so it's best to leave it alone and find a threesome somewhere you know for sure that others are looking for it (or at least are positively looking for sex): that's on the apps, non-monogamy communities, play parties, and the like. If you see that person you met on the apps or at a play party, then you have your answer and can approach them with the subject. But let's say when you met then, you felt like they were particularly trying to drop hints to you. It still doesn't necessarily mean that they are seeking a threesome with you, BUT, a good thing you can do is just leave them your number. Talk with them more outside of the place you met them. Offer to meet for drinks later, and leave it at that. If they contact you, and agree to meet up, then you could mention that you are into threesomes when you meet for drinks. From there, they will either A) state that they arent into that, or B) express their mutual interest as well. This way you avoid propositioning someone and potentially harassing them while they're at work / shopping / dog walking / any other time & place where people are not explicitly seeking sex.

IN SHORT: If they're into it then they will either be on the apps or they'll be at an in-person event, just like you. If they aren't then don't try to turn them into play partners.