So recently I’ve been chatting with this couple I met gaming and it’s been hinted at they’d be interested in a threesome and I’m totally open to this. I’m a bi F (but the furthest I’ve gone with a girl was all waist up so I actually don’t have experience with the sex part of it) and I’ve always been interested in a threesome. I’ve made it obvious that it’s the girl I’m primarily interested in and the guy has mostly mentioned watching us, one time he made a comment about cuddling, so I’m not sure if they’d expect him to participate and if so, how.

Now to the real question of this post. In a FMM threesome it seems the girl would be the primary focus (like in my head and porn that’s how it works) and then in a FFM threesome it’s the guy who’s the primary focus. But 1. I don’t know if they expect him to be joining (yes, I should just be open and ask but like how do I go about that nonchalantly because we haven’t directed/explicitly talked about a threesome). And 2. What do I do during the sex? Like both in the threesome and then also just sex with another woman - is there more than eating/fingering? - Porn seems useless as it’s just acting and mostly catered towards a male audience, but I want some sort of direction/idea of the second girl in a FFM would be doing, especially if it’s a female focus rather than a male focus.

Note: This is mostly for educational/Knowledge purposes rather than this specific situation. Even if it doesn’t work out with these guys, I’m still interested in pursing casual threesomes - especially where it’d be like the woman in a relationship is the “focus” (Idk if that’s just a fake concept I’ve created in my head based on porn but yeah).