Couple 15 years, we have talked about bringing in a 3rd on several occasions. Only a single female showed any interest, only one guy is/has my wife continues to bring up. Back story, I got two different accounts of what happened between them without me knowing or being present for what ever took place. Back to my question, If bring in a 3rd should I be open to the guy she keeps talking about? Should we discuss and put down our rules regarding the encounter. When taking this to the 3rd can he have rules I'll go ahead and say, as long as they are not different than ours. I would prefer to play with someone that is less likely to become a regular. Only thinking that her 3rd had not talked to us for about 4 months and since I talked about this play with another guy for her birthday did he just" out of the blue" contact her.