u/CharlieTKP

Ive seen a comment recently, elsewhere,on Reddit, where someone said they made their person cum on command via text. I mean, yeah if that person is making themself cum whilst you are texting..and you keep texting cum now, cum now, cum now, then eventually they're going to cum at the point you've just sent that text.

u/coffeekitten9

I do not believe for one second that someone's partner can just send them a text message, or randomly say at some point "cum for me" and boom, orgasm.

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I've been mulling this over the weekend. By the time I got to the thread, both these comments had already been made, and tbh when the two moderators of a forum have already weighed in and said, pretty emphatically they don't believe something is real, it makes me question the point in discussing it. But I've decided to go for it.

Orgasm control and forced orgasm are two strong kinks of mine. "cum til it hurts" is the stated goal of many a session. Occasionally if we're feeling like pushing to the edge, I've had pre-negotiated scenes where that changed to "cum til you safeword."

Those limits can be wildly different from one woman to the next. For some, a second orgasm is painful and a third is out of the question. For others, it might be somewhere around 5-10. For an uncommon, hyperorgasmic few, triple digits is not unheard of. That's got very little to do with me and everything to do with them; I'm just as happy giving you all you can take, regardless of whether that's one orgasm or a hundred.

It has been my direct experience that a texted order to orgasm can in fact cause that to happen. It is also my experience that that's very, very rare. As in, in the entirety of my play, I have had exactly one partner who was that level of responsive. We didn't set out to train her to that, nor did either of us expect it as an outcome. But it happened, and got to the point where, yes, sending a texted order to cum made her cum, hands free, which became a semi-regular part of our play going forward.

I've got no reason to believe she is lying about that. She would gain nothing from doing so, and I've never acted like it was expected, let alone required. I've also got no reason to believe that she doesn't know the difference between an orgasm and an "arousal response." She's had more than enough of both to be able to tell the difference. And there have been times when the order didn't take and she told me that flat out too.

Now, I'm inclined toward skepticism when people claim cum on demand status, because if it were even a tenth as common as the internet would have us believe, then I'd imagine my life would be riddled with past partners with pavlovian orgasm responses, and that's just not the case.

But it has happened with one. And one is enough for me to believe it's real, even if I also believe it's heavily overstated the majority of the time.