Today I would like to talk about the foundations of submission and dominance. Each part will be very long. While I have already talked about trust. I want to talk more about the components.

First we have trust. this is the basic foundational building blocks. Safe words and contracts are to ensure both parties fulfill their ends of the relationship they are things that are bigger than both the sub and dom. Safe words are so the sub knows they are safe. The dom must accept the safe words and if they don’t the dom isn’t worth trusting. Why? He isn’t safe. The relationship fails. Contracts tell the sub exactly what is expected of them and tells the dom exactly what is expected of them. Either side breaks it and the trust is done. Why? Trust takes commitment and work. If you don’t put in the work? You fail. Safe words and contracts are just about trust. Many long term bdsm relationships don’t have these. Why? The trust is already there.

Trust takes commitment, safety, and work. You will see this throughout bdsm traditions. They are there for a reason and generally aren’t broken without a massive amount of trust and time.