1, Make your post high effort and appealing. If you're a couple looking, and only post pictures of half the couple, you will only find people interested in half the couple. High quality photos, and a caption that tells ages, what you're looking for and region can help immensely. If you're a single guy, there are plenty of people looking for you, however the dick pic and "looking for females" will never work, Put a little effort in and those interested will find you

2 Comment instead of DM'ing right away. Alot of us have our DM's overwhelmed with messages. A comment allows people to take a look at your profile see if they are interested and then make then decide if they are interested then they will DM you.

3 Be active, everyone can see post and comment history. For us personally, if we click open a blank profile with one post we don't waste our time. The more pictures and information the better.

4 Treat people like people. Even swingers who just want hook ups want to be treated like more than a party favor. Things you can do, be willing to make friends even if there's not a sexual connection, and know what you are actually interested in. You will have more luck with someone who feels like they are your type, if your type is anything of a certain gender you wont have as much success.

5 Single women in the lifestyle are everywhere in texas, please don't let the unicorns don't exist thing get into your way of thinking. If you are not finding them try changing up how you are going about things, or be willing to ask for some advice from the experienced people. They don't post for obvious reasons but they are here and will find you if they are interested.

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Note to the community, please comment anything other advice you may have. We have been very fortunate and meet a lot of great people from reddit, but others i've heard are not having as much success and would love to be able to help them out however we can!!