Long story short we were a thing, we belong to a friend group. Over the last 4 years we always flirted and had a vibe going, end of last year we kissed he asked me out on a date, we had a great moment and were a thing before he spiraled and freaked out because of past trauma. We had an amazing conversation one night (the all nighter of conversations) talking things out about our lives, learning each other, my past and his (hence his overthinking). He basically talked about a whole move and lived out our relationship which is what freaked him out. I was okay to walk away but he didn’t want to let the connection end. He claimed to want to “open up” and “be vulnerable” with me. We promised to be honest with each other no matter what. After things were going so great. We both opened up so much to each other, it was a connection that was long coming over the years long anticipated. We had plans to meet on a work trip we were both on in the same city coincidentally. And just like that, while in that city, I never heard from him again. A few months later come to find out he has a girlfriend now (from said city). I was so hurt because this was someone I trusted, a friend, and really started catching feelings for. I was so disappointed. Especially since he pursued me initially. We envisioned a whole future, our families and friends were invested. I became the person who had to face it alone because no one would dare ask him. We knew we would eventually run into each other, since we have mutual friends. Months later, just as I’m starting to do better, despite not understanding why this even happened, gave myself the closure he never did and just focused on me. Finally living my life. He decides to come into town for one of my family events where he is acquaintances with the person. (Unnecessary, I know) He texted me this after 3 months of ghosting. How do I go about this? I was planning on giving him the cold shoulder this weekend.

“Hey, I’m sorry I haven’t texted back. I feel like I owe you an explanation before this weekend but I completely understand if you don’t want to hear it. I hope you’re doing well!”

It’s such bullshit. He didn’t feel like he owed me an explanation months ago but wants to do it now to save face. Because confrontation makes him uncomfortable! Please advise!

TLDR: ghosted me and got into a relationship and came back wanting to explain. How to go about it?