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My husband has agreed to try the tantra and tantric sex, but he is dragging his feet. He doesn’t show any excitement or no real genuine interest and I would bet money he is only agreeing because I want to do it. I want him to be just as excited otherwise I wouldn’t want to do it with him. His disingenuous feelings about it I think would mess the whole thing up and I don’t want him to do something that he doesn’t want to do.
What raises red flags for me is we are always talking about trying new things, finding new ways to elevate our pleasure and orgasms to the highest possible level we can find, we agree that increasing our intimacy and connection to as deep as possible are priority, he sometimes has issues with premature ejaculation and this would support him on this, etc. So if this would support us in so many ways that we agree on, then why would he in reality agree to it but with resistance frequently challenging it’s actual capabilities to be even fun. He expressed that he refuses to give up porn, ideas of other partners (makes comments that indicate if I agreed to it he would jump all in), etc other things we have tried with nothing to write home about results. Like I am confused. Does this mean he lied about what he claimed to want and is not actually interested in deepening our connection and doubts that tantric sex with me would be as satisfying as watching porn with chicks that don’t even look like me allow him the opportunity to fantasize about being with other women and he doesn’t want to give up on the chance to fantasize about having other options, etc. I never even thought about getting rid of porn on purpose I just figured it would probably just get left in the dust as we would most likely choose the more pleasurable option over the not as pleasurable one. I understand variety spices things up, but if something falls far short, then why vehemently fight for it making declarations I wasn’t even thinking would still be in consideration since it typically results in him just sitting off to the side masturbating while I sit next to him masturbating and we have no interaction with each other.
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