Hi all! So far I've only had 3 sessions with my therapist, but really like her a lot! Still feeling her out, but she has helped me look into goals more and provide education related to LCSWs (as she is one herself). She has also given me good perspective so far, but this one... I'm not sure on?

Anyway, I was explaining a situation that happened with a guy I was casually dating. For background info: have been talking about a month, have seen each other 4 times, both wanting long term things.

Well, he's canceled on me 2-3 times, albeit for legitimate reasons, I feel like his interest is wavering. I told my therapist this and how I confronted the guy I'm casually dating, respectfully, just asking him if he was still interested and expressing my disappointment about the situation.

Well therapist said she probably wouldn't of done that and just let it slide/be like "whatever" since we aren't in an official relationship. She said it is probably important to set as a boundary before hand, before it gets to that point.

While I agree, is it wrong to bring up (respectfully) to someone you've been casually talking to, that you're upset when they've blown you off 2-3 times? I didn't care the first time. But the second or third time? Yes.

My therapist things him and I are both in similar positions in life, where we're young and pursuing careers, things are uncertain. This is true, but we're also ideally looking for something longterm after getting to know each other. I think her mindset so far may be that I should just enjoy the moments?

I have a problem voicing how I feel though and sticking up for myself... so I don't know.

I told therapist if I didn't hear from guy this week, to address the concerns from before, that I'd probably block him or go no contact for my own sake. As he disagrees with how I feel on the matter. She was curious why, as she explained she is unsure of the dating world today. I explained it to her and she voiced understanding, but seemed surprised I'd block him for that reason?

What do you guys think? I'm confused with my own thoughts vs what's right vs what my therapist thinks 😭

I am totally open and receptive to criticism usually, I just don't think I was wrong to tell the guy I was upset he blew me off after the 2nd/3rd time...