Please read before you judge and you’ll see why:

I have had many therapists in my life, and about 8 months I started seeing a new one, we’ll call her Stacy.

Stacy and I got along well. We had been making some progress in addressing my wants and needs in therapy, particularly when it came to addressing the grief I was still feeling from my mother’s death over five years ago. During one of these sessions she had mentioned that her husband had passed away (don’t know anything else but I think it was cancer or something). It didn’t bother me and it still doesn’t, I get that she was trying to relate to my situation.

Now Stacy is definitely what I would consider attractive. I realized that I had an attraction to her but I’ve had this happen with other therapists before abs have been able to move past it. However this time was different.

It came to a head one night when I was absent-mindedly swiping through Bumble when lo and behold, Stacy’s profile popped up. I stared at my phone screen for a long minute, then ultimately swiped left (not matching).

Since then, I’ve had a bit of uneasiness regarding the situation. I already had another therapist at the time who I was and still am seeing. I ended up missing an appointment with Stacy because I was feeling under the weather. Her office secretaries didn’t reach out to reschedule and she has been reaching out to me to reschedule personally. I kinda feel like I should tell her about having “a crush” on her and tell that I’m not sure I should continue to be a client of hers but I kinda don’t wanna do that. I dunno, I’m conflicted. Do I owe it to Stacy to explain it to her?