I (W40) got a specialist perinatal T (W55-60)to supplement my regular male T to help with loss, postpartum depression, grieving potential motherhood …for context.

The thing that’s been bothering me is one of the last things she said during our third session on Friday. There was, like, an aha moment for her and “Correct me if I’m wrong but with your trauma and such did you feel like you always had to be responsible for everything to feel safe?”

Which is, like, duh based on my history.

Anyway she went on to assert after that that I have a “hole” I need to fill. The only other time I’ve had that said to me was during the worst breakup of my life, so maybe I’m sensitive to it, but its left me feeling all day yesterday, and today, like the implication is that I’m not whole. Like, I know I am enough as I am. I take issue with someone telling me I’m missing a piece of myself in oder to feel whole. I didn’t question my sense or being enough or whole, in years, until she implied I’m missing a part yesterday. IFS parts assembled and we’re all here.

Is there a less antiquated way of saying this, that doesn’t imply I’m not whole or enough as I am?