My parents immigrated from the northern Andes before I was born to NYC, so they’ve been exposed to all sorts of lgbt people (including our own relative who has been out as gay his whole life). My third year of transitioning just passed and I’ve noticed more changes lately and so have my parents, which has led to a lot of snide comments like pointing out my light mustache and saying yuck. When I came out to my dad he was like “you’ll never be a real man in my eyes” but I got him tight cuz I told him straight up that his definition of a man was pathetic anyways and I wouldn’t want that (he’s pretty machismo but not hardcore, but this comment is more abt him attempting to cheat and getting caught)

Here’s my main issue tho: they’ve told me they don’t want me coming out to extended family, which is fine for me because I don’t talk to them often anyways. I try my best not to care when they call me mija and stuff, but it’s still hard. What do I do though when my physical transition starts to become more noticeable though? What did y’all do if your family wasn’t accepting? It doesn’t help that the extended family has become more Catholic lately lol. I also got top surgery and last time I visited them I managed to pretend I still had tiddies by using silicone breasts and it worked thank god, but realistically I won’t be able to keep this up forever. Thanks for reading :’3

Edit: I think my other issue is that I’ve never really posted on social media and have always kept a low profile because I didn’t want someone leaking it to my external family, but now with these comments I feel a little more secure in myself :’3 now if a Quechua trans person wants to hmu 👀 I wanna incorporate Andean clothing into my masc style but I dunno how to hehe