Needing Advice, I posted in the swingers group, but figured I'd post pictures here because they are allowed in this group. IMO I don't think I'm ugly but I don't think I'm the prettiest either.

So far hubby & I have been in LS for nearly a year, hes had loads of fun, and Im not. We've met 3 awesome couples. Outside the bedroom everything is great, go to dinners, hang out, have a few drinks, there is chemistry with all 3 couples, like a regular hang out with friends. Unfortunately in the bedroom, the other men (yes all 3) just can't get hard for me. This is not a one and done situation, I've tried several different times, all same outcome, soft. When i suggest i get pleasured, im kind of just tossed to the side. I think I'm the problem, even though I've tried everything trick I can think of to help, but nothing happens. One of the husbands even blamed it on the blue chew he took 3 hours before. So it's the running joke with one of my friends that I'm now "3 for 3". 3 tries, 3 loses lol 😆 😂 Hubby has no problem at all going to poundtown with the other wives.

Any suggestions for me would be greatly appreciated, as I'm ready to throw in the towel.