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Whatever inhibitions you had to overcome to enter the lifestyle - religion, being outed, STIs, etc. - are they an one time gating factor or do you as a couple find yourself going back to the same topics, consider quitting and find yourself doing it all over again.

How do you overcome a factor that causes repeated anxiety before meeting another couple or a visit to the club? Do you also go through a regret/doubt cycle after the event?

I am trying to compare the cycle to what smokers who want to quit go through. The craving, the yielding and the regret.

I know that feeling because I have gone through that cycle and quit successfully - smoking. Not swinging.