I know it's hard to find folks you match with.

I know it's time-consuming, money-consuming, and honestly feels like a second job, trying to find other folks who are interested in playing.

I know that couple / individual at the supermarket / work / house party was super cute and maybe even said something that seemed like they might possibly be into it.

But there's a time and a place for finding other folks to play with, and Everyday Life isn't it.

"But they were really flirty! / But I think they were dropping hints at us! / But there were pineapples!"

So here's what you do. Sign up on all the apps, attend a local non-monogamy community play party, and LS clubs. If you see them there, then you can talk to them about it. If you don't, then they're not into it...so just leave it be.

It really is that simple. If they're into it then they will either be on the apps or they'll be at an in-person event, just like you. If they aren't then don't try to turn them into play partners.