u/SwingAlong42 and I have been swinging for about 9 months now, and we've had pretty good experiences and managed to connect with people whose company we really enjoy and who are also a ton of fun in bed.

Unfortunately, I have a major stressor going on in my life at the moment. My father was diagnosed with a terminal cancer about 6 months ago. I have found that getting together with LS friends has been an amazing way to be able to take a mental break from the day-to-day challenges of this extremely stressful time. A swinger playdate is literally like a mini-vacation where I can just focus on something super fun and not feel guilty that I'm not thinking about my dad and his situation.

However, at time goes on, I'm finding myself more and more worn out from the situation with dad, and it's harder for me to get that excited anticipation ahead of our dates. We have a date tonight and I know it will be fun once we get there, but right now I feel just uninspired about it.

Has anyone else learned how to get into a good headspace for swinging when you have depressing or stressful things going on in your vanilla life?