Update on my first time sharing ny wife (MFM)

Ive been posting here awhile about my wifes desire to be shared/sharing me. It took a long time and a lot of talking as i was very nervous about her with another man. And i recently posted that we finally took the plunge and had a mfm threesome. (See post history lonk below). Short version is we had fun but i did struggle afterwards with feeling inadequate or maybe that she enjoyed him way more than me. An unexpected medical procedure the following day did not leave us time to reconnect sexually and i spent several weeks struggling. We talked and she was aware and attentive to my feelings but i had a lot to process and kept it mostly to myself as it was my issues to fix and nothing she did wrong.

Hearing feedback from all you ladies (and gentlemen) has helped a ton. She has asked to see the pictures and videos i took and she liked them a bunch and i was able to share some with the guy and have a pretty open talk with him about it all. They both individually admitted to loving it very much and are open to it again if everyone is on the same page. And as wierd as it may seem to be happy about (sorry for the tmi), but ive actually gotten to the point ive been able/eager to masturbate and orgasm to the pics/vids we took. Even the ones of the 2 of them. May seem wierd but for some reason i feel like its a big mental victory for me. I definitely feel better as time has passed and im thankful for your input.

The sex between us is still as great as its always been which im thankful for. Ill still have my moments i may feel less confident in myself as I shoukd but its been great between us. Im curious to see what waits for us next.

If you couples out there try sharing your partnrr and its not 100% rainbows and unicorns after please dont worry. Theres great advice here from well intentioned people. Just process and communicate. Good luck!!

TL;DR - had our first mfm and i struggled a bit but overall its much better now.

Past post- https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comments/uzr7w3/after_years_long_journey_it_happenedi_shared_my/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share