Hi All,

This is the girlfriend and I have a question to the community: Each time we have a LS date or LS party, etc., the next day I turtle up and just want to retreat and be by myself. I don't want to be touched and I don't really even want to talk to anyone, not even my boyfriend. This may last 1-2 days. I just want to retreat, into myself.

As background, during the LS date, or LS party I am having a great time. Fun, flirty, sexy. No jealousy issues. Just the opposite, I totally get off and find it super sexy when my guy is engaged with another female. I've had some of the strongest orgasms, watching him.

We drive home. I'm not mad at him, not jealous, but i feel myself turning inward. And when we cuddle to go to bed that night, my boyfriend just wants to touch me, caress me and reconnect with me. But all I want to do is curl up and go to sleep or escape to TV or play mindless phone games.

Is that normal?? Am I broken?? I read so many posts on here about the need to reconnect, the importance of reconnecting and the ecstasy of reconnection sex. But I don't want any of that...I just want to turtle up. No anger or jealous, just want to be alone and 'recharge.' I say recharge, because I feel that I've given all my energy out during my LS encounter and now I need to recharge. But this 'seperation' and turtling really hurts my boyfriend as he just wants to reconnect with me and I unintentionally push him away.

Thanks in advance for your thoughts

H