The more I dabble in ENM and the more I talk with other couples either in person or on here, I am feeling like to have an open relationship on some level is a gift.

It’s a gift of allowing the one that we have been taught to be “all ours” to be free to have sexual relations with other people. It’s something that a person willing gives their partner.

We have all seen a lot of these “One pussy/penis policies” out there and the jealousy that is attached to allowing your partner to experience what you get to experience (if they want that). How many times have we heard a woman willing to allow another woman into their bedroom, but the husband is “too jealous” to allow her to feel another man? And this goes both ways. How many times have we seen a Hotwife have such insecurity that she won’t allow her husband the experience of another woman?

I guess my opinion is this. If you aren’t willing to give your partner this gift of sexual exploration (if they want it), then you shouldn’t be accepting the gift from them. If your wife is open to another woman in your bed for FFM and also another man for MFM, don’t accept the one that benefits you and deny her the same attention. If the husband likes to do MFM because he thinks it’s hot but also wants to try a FMF, don’t accept what benefits you and then deny him just because of insecurity. Either you do this for mutual enjoyment or don’t do it at all.

Just my $.02