TLDR: The title

So we have had some serious discussion about getting started in the LS, leading up to this point. And last night we were discussing the photos that we would possibly use on our profiles and/or ones we would use to solicit ourselves on swingers sites. So I thought it would be beneficial to scroll through other peoples’ together just to get an idea of what we liked and didn’t like about how others presented themselves, and use that to frame how we wanted ours to look. And I thought it would be fun to just say whether or not we would both fuck these people as we scrolled. There were one or two times she would say “oh he has a pretty nice dick I guess” but absolutely all of them were a No. Now she has already expressed her bicuriousity in the past and it’s what I feel is a major factor in why she has agreed to try all of this in the first place. And She had no issues telling me how she would sleep with a large number of the women. It comes to the point she says that she doesn’t want to sleep with any other man, only a woman. There are three issues I am having with this. 1. I am afraid that in that scenario I will most assuredly finish well before either of them, and while I am more than willing to keep going by other means for the sake of their enjoyment I can’t help but feel I will just be a third wheel for most of our time together. And by the time I would be ready for round two/three they will have worn each other out. 2. It is going to be substantially harder to find a unicorn obviously but also a couple willing to let the wife play with either just her (fun but def not as fun for me) or ideally the both of us. 3. While I do find FMF/FFM more appealing overall, I also fantasize about full swap/MFM/maybe even a little MMF. And I feel she using this situation as an excuse to indulge in her fantasies, while simultaneously ignoring mine.

I just have a hard time wrapping my head around how/why a woman who self identifies as mostly straight would just straight up refuse sleeping with any other man, like I’m the only one that she finds attractive? Is she getting cold feet, knows just how hard it will be to find this and is using that as a barrier to stop us from actually entering this realm? Is she just scared of more than one dick at a time or something and using her curiosity as a barrier to trying these other things with me? Is she possibly a full lesbian, really only wants to fuck women, and just happened to end up with me? Should I just shut my mouth, stop overthinking it and go with whatever she wants, just be happy with what I get if/when I ever do get it?