We all know that performance issues can, and do happen. Whether it be getting in your head, over stimulation, or something else, it happens sometimes.

My question (F) is: how can we help in the moment? What has helped/worked for you? **

-do we ignore it?

-do we ask how we can help?

-do we move to something different?

-request something that doesn’t require a hard cock: “lick my pussy” or “spank me”?

-slow things down/take a break

-break out the toys

I tend to not say anything direct, but will say something along the lines of ‘what do you need?’ or ‘how can I help?’ trying to be delicate and hopefully helpful without calling out the elephant in the room, which I assume/imagine will not make anything better.

I tried a few searches of the sub, but with so many ways of describing this, I didn’t come up with this particular question.

**Now I fully realize this may be a fools’ errand question and that gentlemen may not wish to comment so as not to confess to it happening to them, so I’d suggest that any and all answers start out with ‘When this happens to my friend Fred, he says,….’ and go from there.