Hello, late thirties early fourties happily married couple here. Interested in some version of what we think might be the lifestyle but we have tons of questions. Is this a place to ask? If so hear are a few questions:

1) Virtual, is this even worth it to dip our feet into? If so, what sites or apps help? Do any sites or apps help regardless if virtual or not?

2) Is anyone out there willing to do same room type stuff without swapping to test the waters?

3) STDs, this has to exist and how does everyone deal with this(showstopper thoughts in every situation)?

4) Pregnancy, how does everyone deal with this? We have kids already, 1 of us is fixed, no desire to start with young kids again

5) Sure this is a generational thing, (Generally) guessing older say f'it, we are having a good time, youngers say, want to get to know them or be regulars. Sure this will be all over the place, but what are your thoughts? We can see both sides, if to comfortable/regular, is someone going to catch feelings (obviously would be discussed, so shouldn't be a problem, but ya never know). If one night stand type how do you build any type of trust, or do you just say f'it?

6) Boundries(we are a no swap 3 or 4 person type always together). Communication is key, we get it. How vocal during a session is acceptable? We feel like before any next step we would have to "consent", like yeah, m or f, you can touch him or her, just hands, oral ok? Obviously boundries should be discussed before hand with each other and whoever, but is it odd/weird/wrong during to discuss the testing of those boundaries? We are thinking not and pass if anyone doesn't like us communicating.

7) Both F and M in our boat have tons of spoken/discussed reservations/fears. Does it help to let others know or keep them between us? ex, if M pays to much attention to F or M, or F pays to much attention to F or M. How do you express an issue during without killing the mood?